STOP COMPARING YOUR NON-FILTERED LIFE TO OTHERS PHOTO SHOPPED WORLDS
I am a millennial. I don’t mean that in the way that our previous generation labels us but in the way that I was brought up and raised completely immersed in social media. I remember making my first social media page in late middle school (or early high school I can’t remember I’m getting old) … First I was on Black Planet and then Myspace. Oh those Myspace days … struggling to pick who was going to be in your Top 5, spending hours learning the basics of HTML so you can have the hottest playlist and background. Oh and let’s not forget the over edited pictures with all types of writing and quotes on them. This was the beginning of going things for “likes”.
It’s now 2017 and we now have Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat… and “likes” are still important to many people. I can honestly say that I used to delete pictures on my Instagram and Facebook because enough people didn’t like it. Now that I am older or more so have a deeper sense of self I am trying to understand why I even felt the need to post something based on what other people liked and not based on my own feelings.
We have all have the one person who constantly updates their social media page with pictures of them traveling, partying, on shopping sprees or doing other things portraying a perfect life. Yea it looks great, but is it? Why do we care? Social Media makes life easier because it is easier to portray happiness or it just may be there real life. So what!?
SOCIAL MEDIA HAS CREATED JEALOUS BEHAVIOR OVER ILLUSIONS. SADLY SOME ARE ENVIOUS OF THINGS, RELATIONSHIPS & LIFESTYLES THAT DON’T EVEN EXIST!
Sorry to burst your bubble Beautiful but no one’s life is perfect. We all have ups and downs but we have a habit of just showing the ups. The ups feel good; the response that we get from our peers feels good. The thing that has to be learned is how to not base your happiness off what is portrayed by others. Once we realize that people are only portraying a small part of their lives on social media we will be able to focus on our personal happiness.
I know that it is so hard to not compare your life to others. Someone went on a trip that you can’t afford, purchased that new car and you have a 10 year old vehicle, graduated school while you’re still spending late studying, or got a great new job that they love and you hate yours. Comparison should never be a factor … you path is based on you and what you do so the best thing that you can possibly do is FOCUS ON YOU! *gasp* … seems simple doesn’t it? Well it can be once you realize that your life is great or has the potential to be great all you have to do is plan for it and work for it. Plus you have to keep in mind that someone out there in the cyber world is probably looking at your social media thinking that same thing. If only they knew.
Until next time Beauties …..