Have you ever had a goal with a exact timeline and then when your finish date comes you realize that you are no where near done? This has been my life for the past 8 years.
On May 5th, 2017 I walked across the stage at Penn State Abington and received my B.A in Organizational Leadership. When I sat back down after my heart finally stopped beating a million times a minute – I cried. Surprisingly it wasn’t tears of happiness but RELIEF. I started my college education Fall 2007 at a community college while I was 5 months pregnant with my son (who is now 9 years old). It took me 3 years to receive my A.A in Liberal Arts (well I did get another one in Humanties) instead of the “normal” 2 years. I changed my major once during this time. I took a year break after receiving my associates degree to work full time because during my time at community college I worked part time and took care of my son. I didn’t attend my graduation for my Associate’s degree because I was already planning on working towards my Bachelor’s. That was the main goal.
I applied and got accepted to Drexel University in the Spring of 2012. I was so excited …. until I saw the overall cost. Even after loans and financial aid I still had to pay out of pocket. At this time I was working full time and was fortunate enough to be able to stay with my parents only paying a small amount of money towards the household but I was also a single mother who completely covered all expenses for my son. I attended Drexel for two semesters majoring in Business Administration. I hated every class. There was just too much math and I suck at math. I failed microeconomics once and macroeconomics twice. My GPA fell. I was stressed and discouraged. I withdrew from Drexel and took another year long break.
During these “breaks” from school I was still learning about myself and what I wanted to do. I still didn’t know what I wanted to be when I “grew up”. I was always a creative soul so as a teen I had ambitions on becoming a actress and that was the goal that I was focused on before I become pregnant with my son. Upon the realization that I would now have a little human relying solely on me I decided to go to college and get a degree that could help me better support him.
I changed majors three times yes THREE times during my college career because I have no idea what I wanted to do. I knew I wanted to make enough money to be comfortable and take care of my family but I also wanted to if not love at least LIKE my job. I wanted to major in English but I was told that I wouldn’t be able to find a job after graduation so I needed to get a degree in something practical so I declared a major in pre-law (yuck hated it) …. then business administration (lawd!!! the amount of math! sheesh!)… and then finally I found something I enjoyed Organizational Leadership 😍.
Getting my degree took way longer than planned. I watched people younger than me accomplishing their education goals and felt like I was doing life completely wrong. Why didn’t I have a clear and concise plan like the? Are people thinking horrible things about me because I’m STILL in college?
It took me some time to realize that things will get done at your pace. When accomplishing a goal you have to make sure that you are getting things done in a way and at a pace that is right for you. The overall goal is to get it done so how much does it really matter about the time that it takes. Had I stuck with my first major of pre-law I would have finished at the “right” time but more than likely HATED my career. I’m way too emotional to be a lawyer … and way too hot headed AND I hate stupid rules that don’t make sense … I mean seriously law is so much “if then, but, then ifs” (I hope you understand what I mean LOL!)
When working towards a goal we must all remember that we have to focus on US and not THEM. Their race, Their path, and Their goals are not yours. You have to complete your goals at your pace or risk losing everything that you are working for. The overall goal is to ACCOMPLISH THE GOAL. As long as that happens then you win. So yea it may take you longer to start you business, but that house or car, get that promotion or new job BUT ….when you start your business you love it and it’s successful, when you buy that house/car and you love it, when you start that job and the money is great and you wake up looking forward to go to work will the time it took to get it really matter? Yea I didn’t think so. The path to success is never a straight path, there are so many curves sometimes you have to slow down to make sure you get there and don’t fall off the edge of a cliff. So when you felt like you have taken to long to reach a accomplishment ask yourself these two things:
- Did you achieve your goal?
- Are you happy with what you achieved?
My answer to both of these questions is yes when it comes to obtaining my degree. Now it’s on to the next goal and who knows I might speed right through this one … running through stop signs and all.
Until next time Beauties …